Anyway, in the midst of wedding planning, the guest list has been my number one frustration. I know in this age of technology, snail mail isn't the preferred method of communicating. But I still think for certain things, receiving something in your mailbox is way better than getting an evite. There's endless amounts of info out there in cyber land about what to do and not do when it comes to anything wedding, but I wanted to share my own, coming out of my own mouth, because hey, it's important. And I know people will still choose to do what they want (namely IGNORE it) but please. The next time you get a wedding invite, think twice.
- The couple obviously think enough of you to even invite you to their special day. Please be respectful enough to respond with the RSVP, even if you are not going. They will not automatically assume that no response means you're not going. Most likely you received an actual RSVP card along with the invite. With a stamp on it. Check the little box next to "Decline with Regrets" and stick it in the mail. Done.
- Don't RSVP No, and then decide you can go. Receptions typically involve seating charts and head counts, not to mention the per person pricing the couple provides to the caterer. If you show up without having bothered with the RSVP, please don't get upset when you're turned away. (This also applies to not having responded at all and then showing up).
- Attending the wedding? GREAT! But please keep in mind that the couple PAY the photographers and videographers to capture everything. It is encouraged for you to capture moments from your perspective, but please stay out of the way (or shots) of the pros.
Because of the venue space, we were really limited on who we could invite to the wedding, and it upsets me that at least half of the invites we sent out were not responded to until we followed up ourselves. Please keep in mind that the guest list is usually the number one stressor, so try and ease the pain a little bit.
With all the wedding reality shows out there now, it seems like everyone has an opinion of what a wedding should be or what they would expect. I think that takes away from what is really important. Namely, the wedding is a celebration of the bride & groom, their day, their vision of how they plan everything. Being critical of any wedding element is being critical of the couple, and that's just not cool. And ignoring them completely can be just as bad, if not worse.